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How can you learn to trust again? You trusted them. You use to respect them. But, now all of that is gone. You used to look up to them because after all they worshipped the Lord. You never thought that someone who had such high authority in a church could do that to someone. You are now left feeling scared, ashamed, and very much alone. But, know you are never alone, God is there! Do not allow what has happened to you to cloud your judgment and in turn, turn you away from your faith and to God. What was done to you seems like such an unforgivable act, an evil act. Know that it wasn’t your fault. That person who did this to you needs prayers because the devil has gotten a tight hold on them. He has put these desires and devilish actions into their thoughts and in their minds. They gave into the devil and followed through with his afflictions. The devil moves in, when he sees an opening, a weakness.
He is so happy to get into God’s territory. He thrives at seeing evil taking place. But, we can’t let evil win. That’s just what the devil is hoping for. We need to do what the devil would never expect and that is to forgive that someone. This would very much please God. This maybe one of the hardest things you have to do. But, it is important priority to God. You may feel this someone doesn’t deserve the forgiveness. After all, they have taken what was most precious to you, your innocence, and your trust. You need to ask God, to give you HIS strength, some inner peace. When you finally make that big decision to forgive, you will feel much lighter for it.
Try and make good of the bad. Reach out to help others who too have gone through such horrifying circumstances. You can make a difference in someone’s life as well as your own. Everyone needs a friend to get us through these rough times and challenges in our lives. Try and be strong. You need to get back into going to church. Not all religious leaders are alike. This is what is required as part of your healing. Learn to trust in God, to help you get through this. You will never forget what’s been done to you, but, you can move forward and still live a fulfilling life. Trust God. Live your life for HIM and you will once again experience the joy in your life that was once lost.

Written By: Diane Van Bommel

Violated

Things happen in our life that we may not always have control of. Perhaps someone took a part of you that was most precious and important to you. They took away your innocence. You told them no! But, they just wouldn’t listen. You feel like you are also to blame for this happening. You feel you possibly allowed this to happen so you must have deserved it. Please don’t beat yourself up over this and know that in any shape or form was this ever your fault. No one ever deserves to ever have this happen to them. Take away any of these unjustified feelings because it was never your fault; it was a very ill-fated thing to have happened to you. You need to realize it is they who have the problem because they are very sick in the mind. They are lacking God in their life; instead they have chosen to have the devil to be a big part of theirs. It is the devil who gets them to do such horrible acts. They are enabling the devil to take over their minds. Where you had once felt happy, you are now feeling empty inside and ashamed for what had taken place.
You may sometimes suffer like you can no longer go on. It may also make feel one of two things: totally afraid to give yourself to another or the total opposite now giving yourself too freely. You feel in your mind, “Who cares anyway? I’m dirty. I’m damaged goods. It is no longer important for me to save myself for that special someone. What is the point anyways?”
We need to realize that we need to take away any of these ill feelings and recognize we are still very much worthy and ask for God’s help to guide you through this. At times you may experience many flashbacks. It feels like every time you close your eyes it’s happening in your mind over and over. You feel why me? Did I ever do something to deserve this? The response to this is of course not, stop punishing yourself. Just know no one ever deserves this. This was very unfortunate that this did happen to you.
Because of this happening it may start to affect everything in your life, not only yours but others as well. Don’t take it out on those you love. It’s not their fault. They want to help you through this. You may start to mistrust everyone around you because you are so scared. You just wish you could put this all behind you and just forget it ever happened but, your mind won’t let you. You are feeling lots of anger towards the perpetrator. This is normal to feel that way but, don’t take it out on God, instead ask HIM to give you strength to move on for a brighter future without always looking back on your troubled past. You need to also pray for your attacker because they are very sick and in need of prayers for they require God more in their lives, so they can stop doing the same thing to hurt others. You may not ever come to the point of forgiveness but, you need to try and do so for God. That is what HE would want you to. This is such a painful thing to have to consider especially for what you had to endure but, it’s something that must be done in order for you to move on with your life. It will lighten some of the load you are now carrying. God will also be pleased with your Christian deed. Just know you can still go on and live a wonderful future that you are entitled. God is there for you— now is the time to trust in HIM.

Written By: Diane Van Bommel